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The chorus to “Miracles” by Fleetwood Mac- one of my favorite songs from one of my favorite artists! I love this song, but It’s generally not… Me! I generally do believe in miracles. I believe in a lot of nice things.
But Sometimes, even I need to be reminded that miracles can happen. I need to be reminded how great the universe is, and that the law of attraction is there for us to see that and to see that in ourselves as well- that we are creators of our lives.
So I created this example of a script. It’s kinda long, so cut and paste at your pleasure! But it’s an example of a way to get feeling better about your life, about how the law of attraction can really make it work! It’s a reminder that it really is this easy to be, do and have whatever we desire for ourselves!
Check it out. If you want to put a similar script up, write me and I’ll post it here! but I just wanted to get the ball rolling again- as I’ve had a tricky time with getting how I want things to be in my life.
Once I remembered- it was just extraordinary to feel so happy, confident and secure. I hope it helps you, too!
I don’t want my life to be on auto-pilot, where I have no control and so many things just happen to me- much of which, I do not want.
I want to be in control of my life. I want to be happier and more energetic and cheerful. I want to believe I can be, do or have anything I want, set intentions to that effect and experience my intentions come into being.
What if my life was more joyous, that everything I wanted, I got? What If I was more in charge of what happened to me, more focused and intentional in my days? What if, instead of being anxious and fearful- worried that I was going to do or say something bad or wrong, I smiled, stood or sat straighter and intended that I was going to be, do and say exactly the right thing at that moment?
How can I make that happen? How can I set the belief in myself that I am master of my life and that I can be, do or have anything I want?
My life would be so much better. I’d be much more confident and so much less fearful. I don’t even want to think about fear, anymore. I want to see myself as confident and happy, so much so that it spreads to everyone I meet. My friends already love me, but they would be so much happier, it would help them so much more that I get more focused and intentional in my life and start choosing to be happy, choosing more of what makes me happy.
Of course, my friends mean a lot to me and I want them to be happy for me- which will be nice, but it’s an added benefit to my goal. I want to be happier, more focused and intentional towards my life and my own goals for myself! That’s a good thing, too!
It’s good that I want more for myself. It’s good that I want to do more with my life and for myself. It is good and right that I do this, that I take this step to be more in control- not so much more in control, but more intentional, with my life. That I see my life as good and that it is good for me to set goals and to have, be or do whatever I feel right for me to do.
I know how to bring more good into my life, it starts with intention, but it continues with appreciation of the good that I have in my life, now. I need not be grateful for everything, but I know that I have a lot of good things in my life, and the more I acknowledge that, the more I am inspired towards more and bringing more good things to me. I find myself drawn to more good things the better I feel about my life at the moment.
It’s the Law Of Attraction at work in my life and I understand it, believe it and know it to work perfectly in my life! I know that the Law of Attraction works in my life without my even considering it- just following the basic process of getting what I want.
I ask for something I want; I get myself believing and feeling good about that object or event and the very desire for it by appreciating what I have and feeling confidence in my asking for this object or event and I follow my instincts and good feelings to lead me to receiving the very thing I desired into my life.
I feel so much better with this understanding. I feel ready to intend my days to be good- even wondrous; enjoy what I have in my life and watch everything I want for myself flow into my life. I am so happy and grateful that I came to this understanding of how life works, how I can manage my life, how I can just intend and allow more good things- more of the things I want- to come to me. And I see more and more come into my life with such little effort on my part, just the intention, interest and expectation of wondrous things! Thank you so very much!
when you can, enjoy the ride
Which beccons a memory of a Sex & The City episode where Charlotte, the more classy, Martha-Stewart-On-Fifth type of character, had similar experiences with horses and, apparently, never really rode again. In this episode, She sees horses all about central park and the good memories spring back.
Of course, the bad memories surged and ended up keeping her off a horse she had rented (and it’s NY, so no rent is cheap!)
Considering that it was not the same horse of her childhood prompted Charlotte, as well as the narrator of the series, Carrie, to consider the deeper aspects that has been keeping her from doing something she so enjoyed, growing up- something at which she, herself, was very good.
Failure. I can’t say I know a whole mess of people who are unscathed by failures in their lives. Worst thing about it is that failure is a confirmation of doubt and fears- not necessarily yours, but those of others around you. And when you have confirmation of a doubt or fear, it can make you do some really unfortunate things.
Like Quit. Like give up your passion- totally put it away because you may have thought or someone else said it was stupid to begin with.
Though I don’t generally have the best follow-thru, I almost never let go of a goal or idea. I’ve been working on a science fiction story for over a decade- that should clue you in! I fell off the horse of my dreams of self-employment and making money on my talents and interests, and it still kinda hurts where my heart broke over it- I’m looking at the people around me enjoying their rides and doing well enough on their horses- I feel like I want to try it again!
I’m just scared. I’m scared of being laughed at by other riders, or teachers who had tried to help me before- seeing that I had follow thru issues, I’m not sure they’d be thrilled to see me around again. I’m scared I’ll be warned off and berrated again by those I looked to for support, that I won’t be able to find enough support to ever ride seriously again.
or find it in myself to make it my life, again.
But it is my life. Writing- that’s what I do, that’s what I love and I just don’t feel right when I’m trying to do anything else! I mean, there’s a lot of other stuff I can do- but writing is my main avenue of enjoyment and ideal for “Making a Living.“
Maybe what I have to figure out… Is it the horse that’s the problem, even though it’s a different horse than I had to let go of… Is it the horse that’s the problem- or is it me? Someone needs to come down, someone needs to look at themselves, look at the good that was there that made them feel enthused and alive, and say to themselves- “It’s okay, you can do it!”
But there don’t seem to be a lot of talking horses out there…
How do you understand the term “Positive thinking?”
To many of us, it is basically synonymous with affirmations- notions of how one would like things to be. Affirmations are definitely useful and are certainly positive thoughts- and a path to positive thinking.
But a major pitfall to applying Affirmations, as well as other routes to personal improvement, is to try to stretch the use of affirmations to cover you even when you feel like they are not working. It’s a stretch when you’re seeing your finances in the gutter, but try to say “I am in charge of my finances.” or “I am good with money.” You’re not going to back that up with the good feeling that it’s supposed to inspire because it’s diametrically opposed to what you’re seeing around you.
Which is why Esther Hicks and her Non-physical counterpart- Abraham- emphasize finding the next-best feeling thought to where you are; a slow, gradual approach to getting where you want to be. In their book “Ask and It Is Given,” (www.abraham-hicks.com) they offer a process that suggests Talking yourself UP! As you talk or write out your situation, try to look at it in slightly more positive terms- only slightly, to avoid pulling an emotional muscle and letting it backfire on you:
“I’m not where I want to be with my finances… But I have some friends who know people at H&R Block and my niece is in school to be a CPA…”
One aspect of positive thinking that is often overlooked, as the focus tends to fall on Affirmations, is basic human resourcefulness- looking around at what you have available to you. This helps you feel better and can lead to the next oft ignored aspect of positive thinking-
Appreciation! When you see that you have some resources or, at the very least, some things working for you in your situation, you start to appreciate those things all the more.
Please avoid any struggle to appreciate things- that can also backfire on you and make you feel strained or frustrated. A tendency I have- and I’m working with most of what I get tripped up by as well as what I’ve experienced around me- is to try to appreciate things. It’s hard to appreciate birds chirping as a nice thing when they seem to always wake you up in the morning- an hour or so before your alarm.
What is positive for you may not be for others- One of my best friend finds comfort and joy from his two snakes… Not the most common source of positive thoughts, but it works very well for him!
The basic thing we want to do, in our studies of philosophies like the Law of Attraction, is to feel good- That’s it! When you feel good, as Lisa Nichols points out in “the Secret” (www.thesecret.tv,) You draw to you more things to appreciate and that will get you thinking better and better.
One thing generally leads to another. You need not struggle in this process, just consider something to make you feel a little better. Allow yourself a little leeway when you’re not feeling up to affirmations and crawl up the steps to a next-better feeling thought.
There will be some back and forth between a bad feeling thought and a better feeling one- it’s a process, but reach for the better feeling one and see how far you can get.
Here’s a link to a listing of the emotional scale referenced from “Ask and It Is Given” On www.Contemplatethis.com. See if you can figure out how your feeling along this scale, set a point about three-to-five levels up, and notice how close you get, or even how far you go up from that point.
I’ve had a pretty good week, so I’m around a seven- Contentment, though I tend to slip off to 11, 13… even as low as 16… and I’ve been down by 22! The general goal is relief- relief from the low you find yourself in.
Notice I said relief- any better state is a state of relief from where you were when you felt crappy. The Biggest trip in the journey to your best life is when you think you need to feel GREAT to feel better…
It’s gotta start somewhere- Begin where you are, see how you feel, try to understand what that is and look for something to feel a little better about. notice when you feel better and you can start appreciating that, which will get you appreciating more things to appreciate- which will help you feel even better.
Positive thinking doesn’t have to stop with Affirmations, whatever helps you feel just a notch better is a sure path to finding your Ocean State. Thank you!
It's in YOUR hands...
Last week, I did do a lot of rambling. But I felt like I wasn’t the only one going along that verbal stream. I’m not sure it was anything like Esther and Abraham… I wouldn’t care to put myself in their realm, they are truly wondrous. It did, however, help me understand that some things are just not up to me. What you get out of what I discuss is not up to me- you have to take what I say as you can take it.
It’s not up to me and I’m actually pretty good with that. Not that I don’t want you to listen, but what you get out of whatever I end up saying is more or less unique to you! You’ll get what you can work with, I speak pretty well- do decently with keeping on points, at least! So I’m not totally incomprehensible- and that’s the story I’m telling, so there! :} But I have to let go and allow you to listen, which will allow me to talk about what I can talk about, what I ultimately feel needs to be said.
This week I had a lot of experience with the concept of Allowing- including what can happen when you focus too much on what you want with regards to specifics. It’s great to plan and yes you do want to focus on what it is that you want.
But then comes the Control-Freak-Fretting aspect that tends to bungle things up. I get that way a lot and it’s tricky for me to allow as much with my life- I, for one, look for DRAMATIC Change… But it doesn’t really happen like that, nor does it happen the way I think that I want.
There is a gift, however, in that part of the Law of Attraction. You realize that, yes, you can determine what it is that you want; you find ways of accepting that you can have what you want and get to believing you can have it; that picks you up and gets you geared up for it…
Then, you let go!
One sticky part is the letting the universe take it from there. I had a lot of problems with this, growing up and reading things like Shakti Gawain’s “Creative Visualization.” I know, I know, I actually grew up reading Self-Helps, but hey- That’s where I’ve been! Anyway, I grew up reading this stuff and what confused the crap out of me at 16 is WAY Clearer at thirty-one!
The Affirmation that Shakti would end most visualizations with is this, and I’ve found this and others like it, recently, VERY helpful: “This or something better is coming to me easily and effortlessly.”
Thinking back, this is what helped bring my beloved Adam into my life. I had forgotten, though, that I didn’t want to be too domineering in my relationships, anymore. It wasn’t until I started doing this show and making more grand attempts at practicing the Law of Attraction- at least getting into it more regularly than I had before (Commitments like Hosting a Radio Show on the subject will do that to you!) – that I remembered the part about allowing…
More than remembered, really understood! I had gotten to my rote point of high anxiety and trying to control everything that I had forgotten my appreciation of the basics of how good I had actually gotten my life, especially since getting into the Law of Attraction (LOA) and meeting Adam and getting my job.
When I got back to the basics, I was able to slow things down and get comfortable. And with that comfortableness, I was able to try out some things that I couldn’t say really worked for me before. Like the concept of a Higher Power- which I had always had some idea about, but it was the most Vague thing in my life! Since delving more deeply, more routinely into LOA, I’ve actually come to accept, understand and trust this potential in my life- with my life.
Everyone who teaches the Law of Attractions- almost everyone, I’ve noticed some rare, somewhat stunning exceptions- acknowledges a higher force at work that is always moving to get you what you want. A universal Personal Assistant, in business terms. And when you start believing you can have what you want, this notion becomes that much less of a stretch to the imagination. Its there to provide you that with which you are most in harmony.
Consider that, what are you most in harmony with? When you get to feeling better about things- you’ll get into harmony with what you want that much faster. When you feel REALLY GOOD- it will bowl you over with things that match, even exceed your expectations. And by a certain point, your expectations are pretty big, high up there.
When you’re in harmony with the good you ultimately want in your life, you realize the struggle you’ve gone through is really you just not listening to your wisdom, higher power or whathaveyou. You may also notice that you can tell when others are not in harmony with what they want, and when to start stepping back from that situation.
That will happen because you will come to focus one one thing- it seems like many things, but it’s really one thing- that which makes you happy! When you realize that focusing on what makes you feel happy and good is what brings good things to you, you’ll start moving away from what brings you down. And that will sometimes include… as I’ve recently realized was a hard step for me to take…
Specifics! The What and the Hows of a great life! I had gotten into some spats with Adam and I realized that I was looking at specifics and wanting him to match me and be what I wanted him to be rather than appreciating what he had to offer. I know he’s a wonderful man… but I wanted some things from him that I felt I waddin’t gittin’! But then, I looked at my life this week and came to the conclusion that when I had focused on just feeling good at work, where I would generally be very anxious and fretful- I had become cheerful and really harmonious, I ended up having a really good time. When I’d come home and talk to Adam on the internet vid-phone program we share called “Skype,” I’d find it tricky to talk to him…
It was because I wasn’t allowing as much, and I was going online when I really can’t say I wanted to… so I ended up being all crabby anyway. I had gotten into a mindset that I had to do something, so maybe he might have to, as well. and that’s not allowing very good things to come.
I wasn’t allowing my truth (I was tired and irritable and din’t want to be on the phone/net), and I wasn’t allowing him to be himself in that event! I had plopped myself out of harmony and the best thing in my life got foggy and a lot less comfortable.
It helped me come to this understanding of the Law of Attraction and the art of allowing. And I hope to share that with you, here and on the show this weekend.
Also, My dear friend, Regina, is having me guest on her brilliant Monday night spot, here on BlogTalkRadio.com, called “Regina’s Universe!” She wants to learn about LOA and see if her listeners can gleam some inspiration and wisdom as my listeners have. I’d like to hear from you, so drop by then, or during my show, or drop me a line at elizabeth@anoceanstate.com. Thank you so much for joining me on this wondrous journey. Enjoy yourselves!
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